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Ok, so this topic comes to mind sometimes when I'm observing other girls (or women) my age. I go to a big university so there are a lot of people to observe.
Anyways, I ALWAYS notice that many girls are reluctant to admit or even hint at the fact that they are sexy, beautiful, or pretty. What is going on girls? Please read on . . .
I know that a lot of girls are raised to be humble, coy, and avoid the subject of sexiness or beauty altogether (especially in many Asian cultures) but c'mon people!
If you know that you are a beautiful young woman, why not admit it. I'm not saying you have to gloat or brag about it . . . but I think it's healthy to admit that you're beautiful sometimes. And even if you don't believe that you look like a model, it's still ok to say that you think you're pretty.
I feel like many girls hold back because they don't want to be seen as cocky or as a b*tch, but it feels good to not always hold back.
So the next time someone asks you what you think of yourself, don't shy away and say ”oh, I'm so plain, boring, etc.” . . . know that you're beautiful and fess up to it. It can't hurt!
There are so many gorgeous girls on here that deny their beauty, but what's the point of that. You only live once ladies! ;) |
Posted at 12:54pm on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 - 12 comments - 975 views -  Message this member
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I totally agree. Love yourself! Part of being beautiful is having that confidence to say ur beautiful. Everyone has imperfections but that’s what makes everyone so unique.
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| I just think its super hard to think of yourself as sexy, beautiful or pretty. We are our own worst enemies. There are things we see that is wrong with us that others don’t notice or see. I mean, there are times I get ready to go out and think, ”Wow, I look good!” Then I get out of the house and think, ”Do they see my freckles? Am I wearing too much (or too little)?” I mean, I give credit to all those who have many imperfections (whether they think it or others do) and just rock it out! But I get what you mean and this is a great post! |
lol what a topic! I think i’ve always put myself in the positive light...but positive in the sense that ”i’m awesome” not ”i’m pretty” etc...
you’re right personally admitting that you’re hot or sexy is just a tad cocky, i’ve seen a lot of people giving others crap because they thought they were hotstuff. ie guy in my high school who thought he was the hottest guy alive and owned a pocket mirror....sometimes their self esteem gets beat down so much they’d think they’re ugly..but for that guy his cockiness kept him on cloud 9 and lines of girls going after him...
so when i get into that situation..usually in a survey, i’d just to ”lookable” haha... or ”why not, im the one who has to live with myself for the rest of your life.”
Likewise, i think it’s important for people to discover their beauty, not so much the external aspect but more so, the internal relativism...our egos need some feeding every now and then! |
| importshortie: that’s how i feel a lot of times. when im getting ready, putting makeup on, etc and just lookin at the mirror, i feel awesome and confident. but once i step out of the house, that confidence is pretty much split in half. i wish i could be more confident. but hey, sooner or later, we’ll all grow out of our insecurities. |
for the longest time i thought i was ugly or no where near good looking. my parents had never told me i’m pretty (chinese aren’t affectionate at all-at least not my parents) . wen ppl do compliment me , my mom points out my flaws. when i finally asked her why she did that. she said it’s call being humble, she said ” u expect me to say yes my daughter is very pretty?” well yeah i do expect her to say that...
since i’ve left my home and now living alone, i’ve grown a lot mentally. now i can look in the mirror and know that i’m pretty and am happy with how i look.
i want all girls to realize this too. stop trying to change how you look and try to like and embrace who you are, then u’ll be a much happier person. you can never be the prettiest nor can u be the ugliest person; true beauty is inside.
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| ^Bibee: same here...my parents NEVER compliment me...if anything they make me feel worse, my mum points out all my flaws too..i’d get iduno 3 pimples and she’d be like.. your face looks like a crater...or i dress like the garbo man......but not on purpose..so i kinda got used to it.. now i just think it’s funny... n i’ve got cool parents, iduno many mums who can listen to their daughter calling him ugly without flipping...my parents are way relaxed and awesome possums! |
yeah i agree that alot of times we are our biggest critics and alot of people put themselves down when they really shouldnt
Its important that every individual should come to see their beauty inner and outer : ) even if you dont fit the generic/stereotypical sense of society’s perspective on ’common beauty’ remember that everyone also has a different view on what is beautiful in life
...hmm...for me in life ..best thing is to make sure you are happy and comfortable with who you are
okay the last line’s english sounds abit wonky to me but i just woke up and am still groggily typing out things..lol
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Physically I feel I have much to improve upon in my honest opinion, but I’ve always had self-esteem issues in the past and I definitely did have an ugly duckling phase where my parents even thought I was ugly.
What I find to have more weight in attractiveness, however, is culture, character, and intellect. If a person is merely attractive physically, I personally would find them to be repulsive as a whole, *especially* if they’re open about their own physical attractiveness.
Physical beauty is only a bonus, but pride should come from things that matter more than that. Having some humility wen you’re lacking things in character can be a good thing. If you believe you are a good person at heart, then *that* should be the starting point to finding pride in beauty. |
 | 4:14pm, Nov 22 2008 by Sandra:
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I think im HOT |
| Oh yeah, I totally agree. I think I’m hot too. REOWR. |
| ...although I agree with Carousel too. I feel I have things to work on too. (: |
 | 7:36am, Nov 26 2008 by Chi:
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I don’t think I’m beautiful mainly because I know the flaws I have and like Bibee stated, it’s not typical for asian parents to be overly affectionate or tell their kids they’re beautiful. In a way I’m glad they didn’t otherwise I’d probably be arrogant and full of myself. But when I’m made up hair, clothes, make-up and all and ready to go out, I can think to myself that hey not bad! I look good today, but only then. Whenever someone compliments me I’m flattened and not sure if I should believe them. If they’re lying or being sincere. I’m still working on the self confidence thing.... I’ll get there someday. |
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